This sounds like a big misunderstanding. Simply explain to your husband that you didn’t mean any harm by your statement. Let this go and in time this will all pass. There is nothing that you will be able to say to the mother because it sounds like the mother is silly and doesn’t respect you are the other parent.
try to explain to her that her mom is a total lunatic…
or alternatively just tell her that it’s a difference of opinion, and that in your opinion hypnosis helps a lot of people accomplish things they couldn’t do otherwise, and isn’t witchcraft but just a psychological phenomenon.
you sound like you’re a much better mom than her real one, being very supportive of her in trying to quit this cheek-biting habit of hers.
I’d laugh it off unless I were feeling a sort of trouble making mood and/or cared about the child’s well being. I would then start an education regime that involved exposure to beliefs other than the wacked out ones of her mother. I’d give her some Harry Potter books, books on world religions, books on psychology (especially those on psychotic disorders and paranoia) …if she didn’t read that often, there are always television and radio programs such as programs on social phenomena such as religious hysteria. Children should be exposed to a variety of view points rather than being formed into the stupidity of their parents.
The cheek chewing thing is nothing I’d worry about though. It’s just a common habit like nail biting and if she becomes aware of it and wants to stop, she will.
I would ignore the mother. She is obviously not too well in the head. If you have custody of her then she has no saying in the treatment you will chose for your daughter. Hypnosis doesn’t work on everyone, about trying acupuncture? I’m not crazy about hypnosis (I don’t believe it’s witchcraft) I would try to find a more homeopathic treatment.
My response would be to go, “whoa!” and to back off from the drama with the ex. In your shoes, I’d let my husband deal with his daughter’s anxiety and with the religious-nut ex-wife out of “Carrie”.
Alternatively, I’d calmly dismiss the suggestion that hypnosis is witchcraft as nonsense. I’d consider taking her to a psychologist, who can not only offer ideas to help her, but can at least mention in passing that hypnosis is a normal tool in his/her business.
And I would be a tiny bit tempted to try to tell her with a straight face that I was a witch and that was how I stole her father from her mother, but that would be so very wrong.
Her mother is clearly misinformed about common treatments for bad habits/addictions. Just based on her reaction it is likely she is going to do everything in her power to keep her daughter away from anything she perceives as being bad. The best that you can hope for is to one) find a different way of helping your step daughter and two) provide her some type of grounding in reality…something her mother clearly lacks.
Hi,
Congratulations on being an aware, caring and concerned step-parent.
It sounds like you have a ‘good’ relationship with your “daughter”. Since her experience with her bio-mother was so upsetting to her (& you, too) ~ here’s my best – easy suggestion:
RESEARCH!!!
The internet or the library is the easiest way to dispel this uneducated false belief. There’s more to hypnosis than the theatrical entertaining form.
If the tape you have is a generalized one for you to quit “something” ~ then there would be no reason why she couldn’t at least listen to it. It should prove to her that there are no hidden or secret messages that would be considered “witchcraft”.
Whether or not a tape will do the same as an actual hypnotherapy session I am not convinced or sure, but it’s certainly worth giving it a try. You have nothing to lose and a positive results to gain = no smoking.
***Anxiety at 13 is NOT good!!! It sounds like she’s had it for awhile now. I’d suggest that you discuss with your husband the need for intervention now while she is still relatively young. Counseling could be a big help in this situation. An unbiased but supportive 3rd person could give “everyone” insight and assistance.
*Don’t wait to address this because it can only get worse without treatment. It can develop into other behaviors that can/could be even more destructive than cheek chewing.
*Also, there is the possibility that the ‘things’ making your 13 year old anxious can and will affect the other two children ~ if it hasn’t already.
You are a very mature and supportive “step” Mom to be concerned on her behalf. I encourage you to continue to be a positive influence in these children’s lives.
I hope that your husband will be a wonderfully supportive parent by listening to you and seeking assistance that will be beneficial to your entire family.
Wishing you and your family much health and happiness now and in the future.
There are numerous people who make outrageous claims to cover their ignorance and total lack of their ability to research a subject.
If you poled your state psychologist society I would bet that you would find few if any that support that line of thinking.
Hypnotherapy induces a natural state of hypnosis in order to heal an issue. A hypnotic state is a natural state which we all enter several times a day.
It sounds to me like the mother is ignorant to what hypnosis is all about. Give her the benefit of the doubt and let her know that you were just trying to help her daughter. If that doesn’t work go to http://www.nicheno.info/hypnosis.htm According to this site, you can learn to tell people to do whatever you want them to and they will do it. Then try it on the mother………how’s that for irony?!?!?
This sounds like a big misunderstanding. Simply explain to your husband that you didn’t mean any harm by your statement. Let this go and in time this will all pass. There is nothing that you will be able to say to the mother because it sounds like the mother is silly and doesn’t respect you are the other parent.
try to explain to her that her mom is a total lunatic…
or alternatively just tell her that it’s a difference of opinion, and that in your opinion hypnosis helps a lot of people accomplish things they couldn’t do otherwise, and isn’t witchcraft but just a psychological phenomenon.
you sound like you’re a much better mom than her real one, being very supportive of her in trying to quit this cheek-biting habit of hers.
good luck quitting smoking btw.
I’d laugh it off unless I were feeling a sort of trouble making mood and/or cared about the child’s well being. I would then start an education regime that involved exposure to beliefs other than the wacked out ones of her mother. I’d give her some Harry Potter books, books on world religions, books on psychology (especially those on psychotic disorders and paranoia) …if she didn’t read that often, there are always television and radio programs such as programs on social phenomena such as religious hysteria. Children should be exposed to a variety of view points rather than being formed into the stupidity of their parents.
The cheek chewing thing is nothing I’d worry about though. It’s just a common habit like nail biting and if she becomes aware of it and wants to stop, she will.
I would ignore the mother. She is obviously not too well in the head. If you have custody of her then she has no saying in the treatment you will chose for your daughter. Hypnosis doesn’t work on everyone, about trying acupuncture? I’m not crazy about hypnosis (I don’t believe it’s witchcraft) I would try to find a more homeopathic treatment.
ur step-daughter and her mom are just freaking out.your honest intentions are being questioned just because you are not her biological mom.
My response would be to go, “whoa!” and to back off from the drama with the ex. In your shoes, I’d let my husband deal with his daughter’s anxiety and with the religious-nut ex-wife out of “Carrie”.
Alternatively, I’d calmly dismiss the suggestion that hypnosis is witchcraft as nonsense. I’d consider taking her to a psychologist, who can not only offer ideas to help her, but can at least mention in passing that hypnosis is a normal tool in his/her business.
And I would be a tiny bit tempted to try to tell her with a straight face that I was a witch and that was how I stole her father from her mother, but that would be so very wrong.
As someone once said, you can’t fix stupid.
Her mother is clearly misinformed about common treatments for bad habits/addictions. Just based on her reaction it is likely she is going to do everything in her power to keep her daughter away from anything she perceives as being bad. The best that you can hope for is to one) find a different way of helping your step daughter and two) provide her some type of grounding in reality…something her mother clearly lacks.
Hi,
Congratulations on being an aware, caring and concerned step-parent.
It sounds like you have a ‘good’ relationship with your “daughter”. Since her experience with her bio-mother was so upsetting to her (& you, too) ~ here’s my best – easy suggestion:
RESEARCH!!!
The internet or the library is the easiest way to dispel this uneducated false belief. There’s more to hypnosis than the theatrical entertaining form.
If the tape you have is a generalized one for you to quit “something” ~ then there would be no reason why she couldn’t at least listen to it. It should prove to her that there are no hidden or secret messages that would be considered “witchcraft”.
Whether or not a tape will do the same as an actual hypnotherapy session I am not convinced or sure, but it’s certainly worth giving it a try. You have nothing to lose and a positive results to gain = no smoking.
***Anxiety at 13 is NOT good!!! It sounds like she’s had it for awhile now. I’d suggest that you discuss with your husband the need for intervention now while she is still relatively young. Counseling could be a big help in this situation. An unbiased but supportive 3rd person could give “everyone” insight and assistance.
*Don’t wait to address this because it can only get worse without treatment. It can develop into other behaviors that can/could be even more destructive than cheek chewing.
*Also, there is the possibility that the ‘things’ making your 13 year old anxious can and will affect the other two children ~ if it hasn’t already.
You are a very mature and supportive “step” Mom to be concerned on her behalf. I encourage you to continue to be a positive influence in these children’s lives.
I hope that your husband will be a wonderfully supportive parent by listening to you and seeking assistance that will be beneficial to your entire family.
Wishing you and your family much health and happiness now and in the future.
There are numerous people who make outrageous claims to cover their ignorance and total lack of their ability to research a subject.
If you poled your state psychologist society I would bet that you would find few if any that support that line of thinking.
Hello Just Me
Witchcraft! nope, definitely not.
Hypnotherapy induces a natural state of hypnosis in order to heal an issue. A hypnotic state is a natural state which we all enter several times a day.
Sadhara
It sounds to me like the mother is ignorant to what hypnosis is all about. Give her the benefit of the doubt and let her know that you were just trying to help her daughter. If that doesn’t work go to
http://www.nicheno.info/hypnosis.htm According to this site, you can learn to tell people to do whatever you want them to and they will do it. Then try it on the mother………how’s that for irony?!?!?